When should a stay at home mom head back to work? I’ve been wrestling with this question myself for quite a while now.
I’ve come to the conclusion that there really isn’t a clear-cut answer to that one.
Each family is different. Every mom’s situation is different. There’s so much to think about from daycare costs to career aspirations.
By the way, please know I’m not judging any mom. Whether you work outside the home full-time, part-time or stay home with your kids. At the end of the day we are all striving to do what’s best for our families and that’s really what matters!
I think every mom struggles with the question “Should I go back to work?” at some point or another. If the choice is clear for you, then you’re way ahead of the game!
Why I Stay Home (for now anyways)
In my situation things have been hazy-gray lately. I never really struggled with my decision to stay home until this past year.
What changed you might ask? Well both of my kids are in school full-time now. I really could go get a part-time job or head back to my full-time career as a graphic designer but I’ve chosen not to at this point.
If that sounds crazy to you, here’s my big Why and it may help some of you who are facing a similar crossroad.
Less Stress on Our Family
Yes, it would be nice to have more money coming in the door but at the end of the day, we’re making it and our home is pretty calm and happy. That’s my whole reason in a nutshell!
I’m able to be home with my kids when one of them gets sick, if there’s a snow day, on half-days or during winter and spring break. And then there’s Summer Vacation when I would have to pay someone to watch them.
I’m also the dedicated chauffeur, maid, financial planner, appointment manager, nurse, chief, cook and dishwasher in our house.
I stay home because these things do take up time and I remember how it was when my husband and I both worked. We were totally worn out trying to stay on top of things here at home and at work. Our life was chaotic and our weekends were filled with doing things we had to do and not necessarily things we wanted to do.
Do I love my stay-at-home position? Not always. As with everything there are trade-offs. We rarely eat out because we just can’t afford to and I almost never buy clothes for the same reason. We make-do a lot and live frugally.
On the other side of the coin, I have the flexibility and time to work on this blog. I get to pick up my kids from school and hear about their day. I can go for a jog whenever I want!! That last one is huge, to me anyways.
So I’ve decided to stay home for now. After writing this, I’m going to put my struggle “To Work” or “Not to Work” to rest, at least for this year.
Just a note about blogging. If you’re looking to connect with others or write about things you love, I highly recommend starting a blog. It’s been a great creative outlet for me and I love that I can make it my own!
It’s really inexpensive to get started. This website is hosted by Bluehost. They’re currently running a special: $3.95/per month. Just choose an awesome domain name and start building your site. There are also tons of freebies out there including free website templates, clipart and fonts. Time and imagination are really all you need!
I hope you enjoyed this post. If it has helped you in some way, please pass it on and if you have any word of wisdom for SAHM’s, I’d love to hear from you. Just drop me a note in the comment section below.